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Jan 29

Lord’s day preparedness


I wrote this post over a year ago and am just now getting around to posting it. HAHAHA. That is the story of my life. But it seems fitting as we have been going through the importance of worship in church. It’s been so encouraging to be reminded why we are there. And it’s so important for our littles to learn too.Lord's day preparedness

As my husband and I have set out to set the Lord’s Day apart from the rest of the week, we work hard to be prepared for it and enjoy it. Our whole week is around Sunday and we like it that way. I always forget how much my mind and week revolves around Sunday until we have to miss church fellowship for one reason or another (like being sick for the LAST 3 WEEKS!!!).

For as much of Sunday worship takes place in our hearts, there is a whole lot of preparation that goes into just getting us in the doors and ready to worship together as a corporate body. Because of how important Sunday fellowship is, I wanted to share some practical things that have helped me not only get my kids to the physical location but also have helped us teach our kids how to worship the Lord in the service with us, even if that is just sitting still for 5 minutes.

Most of our physical preparation for getting everyone ready starts Saturday. I lay everyone’s outfits out for the next day, while the kids are taking their Saturday night bath. This bath time routine is longer than baths on the other nights of the week. We paint toes in the summer, clip nails, and clean ears. They know even the bath before Sunday is different from the rest of the week. The goal is that at a very young age our kids will know Sunday worship is special and different than the rest of the week.

We also put the kids to bed earlier than usual so they are well rested for the next day. We also prepare the kids for the actual service, by always have fun snacks for them. Gum is also a good weapon to put in the arsenal. We had to do some practice runs at home to teach them not to swallow it, but now it’s a great tool!

I also try to have some new stickers and fun coloring things in our little church backpack to help them keep their little hands busy. I rotate a few cars and plastic animals in there. I try to keep these toys separate from the rest so they are special toys and will hold their attention longer. I’m always on the look out for fun, new, quiet things to add to his backpack. Most of the time for holidays, they get things with Worship service in mind – stocking, Easter basket, birthday, etc.

Now, how do we get them to sit there, quietly, for the whole 1.5 hour service? Practice, practice, practice. We start them right out of the womb. :) They stay in the service as long as possible. Job was a chatty little baby so we had to use the nursery more for him. We would try to keep him until offering. And then we worked our way to the sermon. Then 5 minutes of the sermon. Then 15, 20, 30 minutes of the sermon, until he reached the whole service duration.

I tell you all this to encourage you! It’s a process. It takes time and practice. It doesn’t just happen over night, but it sure pays off. We love having our kids “singing” next to us. Saying “amen” when the prayer is over. And listening to God’s Word being preached. We love them watching us partake in communion, kneeling at confession, and giving of the offering. We love that they are participating with us, even in small ways. We want church to be a place they love. Keep working at it parents. It’s so worth the work.

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Apr 3

potty training

What a month (or two). We have been all things potty training recently. With baby number 3 on her way we decided it best to try and NOT have 3 kids in diapers. That just gets expensive and hectic, fast. So we set out to potty train Job, our 2 1/2 year old. I have tried sitting him on the little potty a few other times and he didn’t seem to get it. He was only 18 months the first time, so we just put it on hold for a little longer. I tried one other time and it was still a “no go.”

So here we are at 2 1/2 years old. Potty training. Overall it’s gone very well. He got the peeing part down quick. And after the first week or so, the poo followed (he DID still go in his diaper however :). We had a bit of a relapse in there due to traveling and being in a pull-up longer than usual. But after a few days back in undies, we were back on track.

His newest feat – waking up at night to go pee instead of just going in his pull-up. YAY! We are on the right track. We still aren’t completely dry every morning, but definitely making progress.

I wanted to share a few things that have helped me on this journey.potty-trainingWhat we ended up needing – a little potty, undies (we skipped the training undies, mostly because of cost), a new DVD is very helpful, sanitary wipes for wiping out the potty, regular wipes for wiping cute little hinneys, and of course treats for going (we did M&M’s for pee and peanut butter cups for poop).

The first day we did nothing but potty trained. We watched movies all day and did lots of fluid drinking. I just let him run around in just his undies and every 30 minutes or so we would try going potty for a minute or two. After the first accident, he decided he didn’t like being wet so he would start yelling “PeePee! PeePee, Mama!” and off to the potty we went. That first day he only had two accidents. YAY! He even pooped in the potty that first day.potty-training-1Like I said earlier, it did take him about a week to get the pooping in the potty thing down. But since that first week he’s had very few pee or poo accidents. I have noticed if he’s playing with friends he will tend to forget about going potty, and I don’t blame him. I just try to remind him lots during play times.

For the first month, I would put him in a pull up for going out of the house, nap time, and bed time. We have since dropped the going out of the house pull-up and he’s doing great. I think I could also drop the nap time pull-up as well. He’s been dry for like 3 weeks now, but our washing machine is broken currently, so I am really trying to not have to wash the sheets if we do end up having an accident.

All in all, this potty training thing is going great! He loves his big boy Cars and Nemo undies. He’s just so stinking cute in big boy undies! Yay for only one kid in diapers (at least for the next 2.5 months) :)

 

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Nov 14

guess what?!?!?!

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That’s right! Lugg baby #3 will be making his or her big debut in June. We are so thankful and so very excited. He/she is already making a big impact on our family. We pray it’s only the beginning!

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Oct 23

battle in the trenches

battle in the trenchesI am not even really sure where to begin this post. I was just telling Ian that I wanted to share a bit of my struggle with all the crazy hormones that came with having a baby and maybe encourage someone who is in the same battle. There are few resources out there that come at this from a Biblical perspective and while I have not “arrived” by any means, I am right in the midst of this battle and know what it’s like in those dark valleys.

If you would have asked me three years ago what I thought about depression and postpartum blues, my answer would be very different from the one I would give you today. I don’t want to get to into a debate, but rather encourage you. It’s strange how the Lord is giving us new and unexpected trials to over come. With my first child, Job, my struggles came hard and fast right after he was born. I had never felt such deep sorrow in such a “happy” time of life. I remember going to bed when he was just 5 days old and hoping I didn’t wake up. It was a hard 6 weeks for me. But by the time 6 weeks rolled around, I was feeling much more like myself and enjoying my little blessing so much.

With number two, Ruthie, I was prepared for the worst right after she her birth. I even had my mom come for extra time to help me through the first 6 weeks. Much to my surprise, I was great those first 6 weeks. I loved every moment of it. My struggle came in much later this time around. Every time I dropped a feeding in her nursing schedule I would feel much like I did after having Job. I wasn’t sure what was wrong and why I was feeling so sad and overwhelmed. Life was good and I had much to be thankful for, and I knew that. Yet, I couldn’t seem to kick my feelings to the curb. The next few months were rough. But knowing that things would get tough with each feeding I dropped made it all a little more bearable. We knew it was coming and we could prepare (at least a little) for what was to come.

I am still in the midst of the slight fog, but things are looking bright. These emotions God has given us are good. They are apart of what make us human. They are apart of this struggle in life. So, keep asking for faith to keep giving yourself to your family, even when you feel like you have nothing left to give, because just like the woman with the oil (2 Kings 4:1-7), the Lord will keep giving you more to give. So keep pouring and lavishing it on.

I want to encourage you to keep fighting. Confess sin where there is sin. Ask Christ for the faith and strength to make it through another moment, hour, or day, even if you don’t feel like you can make it another second. Ask your husband for grace, prayer, help, and hugs. And look to Him who is able to keep you from falling. This is a fight worth fighting and winning!

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Oct 17

the temper tantrum

Yesterday our little Roo-Roo decided to only take an hour nap from her usual 2-3 hour nap. When she woke up, she was less than pleasant. I had made cupcakes earlier in the day and decided to let her have one. Who isn’t happy eating a cup cake, right? Well, my not-so-evil plan worked. She loved it to say the least.cupcakes That is until she finished it.temper-4 temper temper-2 temper-3 temper-5It was the temper tantrum to end all temper tantrums. Total depravity was very evident here. Much laughter was needed on my part to get through the craziness happily. We all survived. temper-7Job has even learned how to tell sissy to “SHHHHH!!!” It’s very cute.temper-8 He has even learned how to laugh at her in her crazy crying! We all have. And not in a “that is so cute and funny” kind of way. More in the “that is so ugly and silly (foolish)” kind of way. Because if we can’t learn to laugh at things that would otherwise drive us to anger, well, we will likely be angry. And at the rate of fussiness that we can generate in one afternoon, I would be angry way too often.

Hopefully these pictures give you a good laugh too. We love our little Ruthie and hope to teach her one day to laugh when anger or freaking out seem like the only two options. So, bring it on, tomorrow. We may not always have perfect joy, but we can always laugh. And laughter is war.

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Jun 23

a house worth keeping

A topic that has had a recent resurgence of popularity in the evangelical cyber-world is that of women’s swimsuits. While I realize that swimsuit modesty is not a popular topic among men, I do think we should have something to say about it especially as husbands and fathers. This brings me to why I am even talking about this – often what we say regarding matters like this has little thought behind it. If we are trying to build multi-generational faithfulness, ham-handed treatment of issues that pertain life and godliness (which is everything) is not the way to go.

I think the swimsuit issue serves as a good example of this sort of thing. We buy into the reasoning that goes something like this – the modesty and thus godliness of a swimsuit is a simple calculation of skin to cloth ratio. If there is more skin than cloth, Jesus isn’t happy with us. We even appeal to the history of the swimsuit as though there was a holiness that existed in the past that we ought to somehow return to. Now granted, it may be a good thing to return to something of the past but let’s not assume it’s age makes it the better choice.

A formula like the one above might be a convenient way of calculating your standing with God but it simply isn’t a true measure. There’s nothing wrong with contending that we really ought to consider what we wear, why we wear it and even promoting principles and guidelines to help direct people. But reducing principles to rules and formulas only makes the issue messier because the ones keeping the rules feel holy and the ones who don’t share those convictions often have unnecessary guilt or imposed convictions that lead to a searing of the conscience. If we take this thinking in the above example to it’s furthest extent, we are really being quite modest in our reformation – a burka would be the MOST pleasing to God.

My point in addressing this issue is to point out how we can so easily adopt convictions regarding traditions, clothing, and culture that are built on foundations of sand. We often mix just enough of a knee-jerk reaction to the world’s standards with a little bit of conservative zest to make it palatable to the Christianese culture. As Doug Wilson says “It’s not enough to be right. You have to be right in the right way.” – or something to that effect.

In other words, it is easy to use the right words but put them in the wrong order. We know the evangelical vocabulary list and so we pull a random selection from it, throw some verbs and other connecting words in there along with some Bible verses (if we really want to make our point) and that is what we use to support our choices. (And notice, I am not excluding myself from this folly.) Part of the problem is, though our reasoning may “work” for us and our kids for now, that sort of haphazard thinking will not last. If we want to lay a foundation that we can pass on we must build on principles that will outlast our present situation.

So men, let us be vigilant in how we approach things and how we lead our families – even thru the most trivial of things. We show what we really think about God in our everyday decisions and interactions. So let’s lead with convictions and articulate our decisions with principles that won’t be sold at the posthumous auction with the rest of our worthless goods. Let’s build a house worth keeping.

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